Don’t wait years to discover you’ve been committed to an unhealthy relationship. Set openly communicative boundaries from day one and consistently improve upon those mutually agreed-upon principles.
Today, there are many outside factors that may influence the overall well-being of a relationship. Thanks in part to the infiltration of social media, we are constantly keeping tabs on our peers and monitoring their behavior based upon what we perceive from online personas. Many people carry false hopes based upon unattainable aspirations that are entirely rooted in sensationalism. The difference between fantasy and reality is a stark differential that some people struggle to discern between.
A companionship between two people can be strengthened or decimated based upon many factors. Unfortunately, one of the ways people can be torn apart is through insecurity related to online platforms. Depending on how much a person posts and the content that they share can affect the judgment and perception we have of them. For example, a simple “like” or “follow” may disrupt the entire nature of your relationship. First, if your significant other displays that they are shallow enough to let social media interactions sway the chemistry between you, that should serve as a warning sign. Certainly, every situation deserves its due context and it is logical to be upset if your partner engages in flirtatious or provocative exchanges via social media. But, to cause a disagreement or argument due to a “like” or “follow” indicates a lack of confidence and childishness from your significant other.
The strongest relationships are firmly built upon aspects such as trust, loyalty and respect. Most importantly, confidence is fortified from confiding in one another. From the beginning, every relationship needs to be based upon open communication and pre-determined boundaries. For instance, if you choose to take a photo with someone of the opposite gender, you and your partner need to develop a stream of contact whereas you discuss your level of comfort with situations such as these. Do not wait until a problem arises to create dialogue surrounding the situation. Set the guidelines from the beginning and make sure to thoroughly contribute your viewpoints and sentiments toward every possible scenario that could potentially arise.
Besides social media, there are countless other issues that may cause you to raise a red (or white) flag. The majority of them revolve around communication or a lack thereof. If you are consistently discussing deeply personal relationship problems with your friends or your family rather than your partner there may be an issue. Some conversation between you and your family in regards to your relationship is healthy. But, a fine line exists between discussing issues to vent and completely avoiding the issues where they need to be addressed. Certainly, if a problem exists it is important to find out directly from the source. Make sure to maintain a balance between positive reflections and what may bother you in order to achieve a healthy homeostasis in your relationship.
One of the most telltale signs of an unhealthy relationship is the way that your partner acts in public. Even if you are wrong, your significant other should always defend you in public and correct you in private. It goes without saying that if they choose to defend a complete stranger instead of you that your best bet would be to explore other options. Sometimes disagreements can be healthy for a relationship. If a disagreement arises between close partners that involve disputed dialogue and heated rhetoric, it is important to be open and express yourself completely in order to reach a solid and permanent solution.
Disagreement does not always have to include verbal insults or exchanged unpleasantries. Whenever the “honeymoon stage” concludes it is common for differences of opinion or expression to occur. How you go about handling yourself within these situations speaks volumes in regards to your demeanor and the complexion of the relationship. The ways by which communication is established will ultimately determine the strength and ability to make your relationship transcend the test of time. The easier it is to understand each other and the higher maturity level that each individual carries will decipher what type of advancement and how long your love is meant to last.
Another important characteristic of any relationship is the way that a person conducts themselves in the night scene. First, if your partner refuses to go out with you by their side that is an immediate sign of an unhealthy relationship. Second, if they choose to go out with you, but refuse to acknowledge you within that setting, you can be certain that is another sign of a toxic relationship. Ideally, couples should be able to participate in the night scene and enjoy each other’s company anywhere.
Finally, one of the most catastrophic signs of an unhealthy relationship is passive aggression. It is important to note that everyone has a different personality and orchestrates their daily interactions differently. It is critical to note the difference between sarcasm and passive-aggression. Any solid relationship requires some sarcasm and joking because as the saying goes, “You tease the ones you love.” But, there is a fine line between humor and complete indecision.It is imperative to value the intricacies of every single human being and remain fascinated with what makes you unique. I hope that you enjoyed this informative article and do wish that you instill some of the basic virtues imparted here into your everyday life.
Blessings.
